It was 1:30am when the surgeon came into your ER triage room and said that you needed emergency surgery. From where I was sitting on the floor, all I could see was you turn your head to the side to deal with the news. I laid back down on the floor, trying not to let fear take over, and the first thing that I could say was “God, I can’t lose my mom.” Mama, I have never been more aware of how thankful I am for you than I was the moment the surgeon found us in the waiting room and told us that you were okay.
I have often said that you are one of the most stubborn people I know, but that tenacity has also translated into a steadfast example of living with integrity and faith. Your commitment to your family and unwavering love and support for your children is ingrained into the very foundation of my daily life. I know that who I am is a direct reflection of your prayers and sacrifices.
You have been the rock in our family through hard times. You are a beautiful woman and have been a living example to all your children, but especially your daughters, of how to be strong and independent. Your famous motto “if it’s not for sale, don’t put it on display” has instilled a sense of self-respect and self-worth in me that refuses to allow me to settle for anything less than all God has for me (even though I still laugh every time you say it.)
You love your people well, mama. Not just your family – every single person God puts in your life leaves your presence a little bit better, a little bit stronger, a little more hopeful. You are an unshakable pillar in the life of everyone who calls you friend.
Throughout my life I have watched you do the right thing. Always. Regardless of how it feels or what sacrifices you have to make, you always do the right thing. You show up every single time, ready to help and to give of yourself and your time and your resources without a second thought about yourself and your own needs. What a self-less woman you are.
You have taught me so much, mama. So many important lessons about faith, commitment, and hard-work. But the most important lesson you have taught me is how to love my people. How to be there for them. How to show up when it’s hard and just be with people in their pain. You have shown me that how you sit with the broken says more about you than how you walk with the great. You have taught me that love often means doing the hardest things, putting yourself last, and pushing your own feelings aside. You don’t have to worry about your children, mama. Because of you, we know how to show up for each other. We know how to love one another.
Mama, my prayer for you is that you would know how deeply loved and treasured you are. That you would never doubt for a second the legacy you are leaving, the impact you are making. Your everyday life of showing up and loving well is making an eternal difference, and we all know that’s the only kind that really matters.
Happy Mother’s Day to my friend and role model. I love you.
I regard no man as poor who has a Godly mother – Abraham Lincoln