Monthly Archives: February 2015

On Valentine’s Day


Seriously though. Today marks the 8th Valentine’s Day in a row that I have had to buy my own chocolate (so if you’re secretly interested in me, now’s the time to speak up).

I have celebrated Valentine’s Day while in a serious relationship and have celebrated while seriously single and I would love to tell you what’s different about the two.

You ready for it?? Here goes….

Absolutely nothing.

When I had a boyfriend (and by that I mean the 2 out of 4 Valentine’s days we were together that he actually thought to try and make the day special ), I celebrated the love in my life.

The past 8 years without a boyfriend, I have celebrated the love in my life.

And all of it was beautiful.

There are so many different types of love, and I don’t believe that Valentine’s day is a day to only celebrate romantic love. Last year I babysat my nephew and still remember the day that we had together and watching him explore and laugh and crawl around my house. A few years ago, a group of single friends of mine got dressed up, went to a nice dinner, and then went to take Salsa lessons together, celebrating life and our relationships with one another. Today, the youth at my church are going to volunteer at a local emergency shelter for kids removed from their homes and ensure that these kids feel loved and valued. And almost every year since I can remember, my mom has made sure that I had a valentine present. Even though I moved out of her house years ago, I always wake up Valentines morning with a gift and card on my kitchen table. These are the kinds of moments and relationships worth celebrating today and every day.

If you are single today, IT’S OKAY! Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a day where you feel bad about yourself or doubt who you are or feel like you don’t have anything to offer. Please remember that your value and worth is in no way determined by whether or not you have a “Valentine” today. Choose to celebrate all the love you do have in your life; the sustaining love of an amazing Savior, and wonderful family and friends. Celebrate the relationships God has blessed you with. He is too good to us for us to do anything but rejoice in Him always!

So to my fellow single ladies, instead of eating ice cream straight from the carton and binge watching sappy Lifetime movies, try something different today.

  • Get dressed up and go eat dinner with your closest friends! And then celebrate one another and the friendships that you have
  • Offer to watch your nieces or nephews and then snuggle them for hours and thank God for the gift it is to be an aunt
  • Go volunteer somewhere and share the love of Christ with others who are hurting today
  • Take a road trip by yourself. Explore a new place. Thank God for the gift of life.
  • Send your friends funny pictures to remind them that they are single too ;)



Life is beautiful friends. Every day is a gift. Don’t waste what could be an amazing day feeling bad about yourself. You are fabulous, and I think that you all deserve someone to buy you flowers and chocolate, but it’s okay if this year that person is you. Buy the prettiest flowers you can find and remind yourself how loved you really are. And just incase you don’t have anyone else to tell you this today…


And if this post still doesn’t make you feel better, just remember that tomorrow all the chocolate will be half-price.

XOXO, Angela

I'm a daughter, sister, aunt, friend, Jesus Feminist, and social justice wanna-be. I believe in women finding their freedom and living out their callings without permission or apology.
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